Learning from other single parents

This week I’ve been exposed to such an extraordinary array of different single parenting scenarios and it’s really got me thinking. As single parent families we have some similarities. However each of us is unique; with unique stories, children, ex’s, expectations for the future and challenges to overcome.

So when I find it difficult to share my daughter every second weekend with her dad, I’m now contrasting that with the situation my amazing single parent friend with 3 boys is in. His wife died 18 months ago and his challenge is one of never having a weekend off. Even if there was a capable friend to help, his youngest is still under 2 years old. So it’s a big responsibility for a carer, not to mention the separation anxiety of the parent. Sharing versus Support.

And when I’m struggling to fit in work, childcare, fitness and finances and get somewhat miffed that my ex has such limited responsibility for our daughter, I’m now contrasting my situation with that of an amazing single mum I met this week. Her ex husband won’t allow her to go abroad on holiday with their son without his prior permission (on threat of court proceedings). Responsibility versus Restriction.

I also contrast my own 6-year single parenting experience to that of my expert friend Cherie who’s been thriving single-handedly with her 3 children for over 20 years. What a lot I know, but speaking to her … what a lot there is still out to there to learn.

I guess we’re all just somewhere along the road of our unique journey. My experience is to observe and listen to those on a similar journey whilst reminding myself that there’s no right or wrong way to do this. We’ve got to acknowledge our own style, our own aspirations, our children’s characters, our ex’s involvement (or not), our resourcefulness, our creativity, our positivity and our unique talent to influence the future to be anything we want it to be.

I know that Christmas is coming up for a lot of parents. Personally I’m still in denial that it’s come round so fast, so I’m going to leave discussing it ‘til next time we talk!

Please keep emailing me your parenting tips – short or long, I absolutely love them!